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Reasons Why People Envy

DEFINITION OF ENVY:

It is simply you want what they have. It is not just in material possessions that we envy, we also envy people who are well regarded, influential, admired, and successful. It's also feeling inferior to another person.


Why do people envy? Why would someone hate to see someone else happy or feel bad whenever he sees him doing well? Do those who envy do it because they are bad people? Or is there any other reason behind this envy?


In short, envy does not root from hating other people or even being an evil person but they usually root in the inferiority feelings you experience when you see someone else doing better than you. But I will also like to tell you that not all people envy.

So, before we continue we need to talk about the types of envy.

2 TYPES OF ENVY
  1. Malicious Envy
  2. Benign Envy

MALICIOUS ENVY
This type of envy focuses on the person who's achieved the envious things, and it is associated with resentment, annoyance, actively wishing that they could be deprived of the wished-for thing.

BENIGN ENVY
This is more general. You see, people who felt this generally thought that the people they envied deserved the achievement, they didn't feel hatred towards them, but they targeted their envy generally towards the envied object itself, not the person who got it.

Now, I will be frank with you that many things can trigger envy. So, let's go into details about what and what triggers envy.

TRIGGERS / CAUSES OF ENVY
  1. Social Comparison
  2. Fertility
  3. Relationship
  4. Self-Evaluation Maintenance
  5. Physical attractiveness
  6. Money

SOCIAL COMPARISON
Today, a study found that social media is a powerful cause of envy. As individuals post self-selected photos of themselves at their happiest moment to broadcast to the world, we all have it. Once Instagram users experience envy of the activities and lifestyle of their friends, they could be more likely to feel envy.


FERTILITY
This also can be an extremely provocative cause of envy between women. Once one woman is having children and the other is yet to get pregnant after so many years of marriage.


RELATIONSHIP
If you have the priority of having a romantic partner, but you end up with discrepant relationship statuses and your friend is in a romantic relationship, that can trigger deep envious feelings. This happens to men and women alike. They always share their sadness and bitterness about their friend who always has something while they don't.


SELF-EVALUATION MAINTENANCE
You see, people always strive to maintain positive self-affirmations. If one of them is successful in a less relevant area then it triggers envy.


PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS
In this area, people with low self-esteem often magnify their shortcomings and tend to envy their attractive friends. Physical attractiveness can trigger envy in friendship, especially in social circles in which appearance is highly valued.


MONEY
I cannot end this without mentioning money. Hmm, money matters a lot. This can contaminate a friendship if one of them brings in money or even has access to plenty of it, and the other person lives from hand to mouth. This can trigger envy especially when the person has money to throw around.


HOW TO STOP / AVOID ENVY

You see, there are so many ways we can stop or avoid or stop envy but I will list a few below.
  1. Gratitude
  2. Emotional awareness
  3. Relationship
  4. Well being

GRATITUDE
This is a very useful tool if we want to avoid or stop envy. Being grateful for the things we have rather than being envious of things we don't have, can help in reducing the feeling of envy.


EMOTIONAL AWARENESS
In this aspect, being aware of the feeling of envy is very important. In other to avoid or stop envy, meditation is a very useful tool to enhance emotional awareness.


RELATIONSHIP
In the case of stopping or avoiding envy, it is important to be in a relationship with others to get rid of negative feelings.


WELLBEING
You see, realizing the harmful effect of envy on our well-being will likely help avoid or stop envy.


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